SOCKS server life-cycle: detailed definitions and unit tests for onceStarted and onceStopped promises

The general idea here is that the SOCKS server depends on two things to function:

* TCP server
* peerconnection

Once both have successfully started, the SOCKS server is running (`onceStarted`); conversely, once _either_ dies, the SOCKS server has died (`onceStopped`).

This defines `onceStarted` and `onceStopped` reasonably concretely and adds unit tests for how they should behave. Those tests are obviously pretty abstract so this pull request has a number of TODOs marking where integration tests are required, e.g. verify peerconnection's `onceDisconnected` actually fires and that its `stop` method is idempodent.

Tested with the sample apps.

Clearly, a followup pull request would implement a similar lifecycle for SOCKS sessions which depend on both a TCP connection and data channel to function.
Do we really want the spec to force stop to be called, or do we want to check that the stop pomise is fulfilled? If possible, would be ideal for test to be tied to the public data available rather than to internal function call paths... unless we want to make explicit (in comments) in the .d.ts file that failure results in a call of stop...?