Custom items revamp DONUT MERGE UNTESTED

no more bloody ckey checks in my beautiful subsystem
only parses once, instead of every time someone spawns
equips custom items to the appropriate slot if it can (probably unlikely, given that it's done after everything for the job is equipped) before falling back to backpack/box/ground

people who will NEED config changes (can be done on live now without breaking anything):
jakksergal: Nashi Ra'hal: /obj/item/weapon/storage/belt/medical/fluff/nashi_belt: Nurse, Chemist

other ones can be simplified by this (ie removing a bunch of the definitions) but will continue working fine (even if they are updated before this hits master)
I have a feeling that being strict about alt-title will result in trouble when people feel like switching to a different alt-title one day and then complain that their custom items are gone.