ISPN-3530 ISPN-1855 Keep per-cache CH to route requests correctly

* fixed HotRodManagerIT tests: cannot pass null as cache name
ISPN-4472 Upgrade TestNG from 6.8 to 6.8.8
ISPN-1951 Use MERGE3 in the default UDP configuration

TEST_PING needed some changes, as MERGE3 doesn't trigger Discovery.findMembers()
Smaller timer pool and queue.
Still causes lots of failures.