ashmem: fix deadlock when system is low on memory
When system is low on memory, allocating memory while holding the
ashmem_mutex may try to directly reclaim memory. Then ashmem_shrink()
is called in same thread. It will deadlock at acquiring ashmem_mutex.
This change lets ashmem_shrink() return failure if ashmem_mutex is not
available. Memory will be reclaimed from others.