redesign cond var implementation to fix multiple issues

the immediate issue that was reported by Jens Gustedt and needed to be
fixed was corruption of the cv/mutex waiter states when switching to
using a new mutex with the cv after all waiters were unblocked but
before they finished returning from the wait function.

self-synchronized destruction was also handled poorly and may have had
race conditions. and the use of sequence numbers for waking waiters
admitted a theoretical missed-wakeup if the sequence number wrapped
through the full 32-bit space.

the new implementation is largely documented in the comments in the
source. the basic principle is to use linked lists initially attached
to the cv object, but detachable on signal/broadcast, made up of nodes
residing in automatic storage (stack) on the threads that are waiting.
this eliminates the need for waiters to access the cv object after
they are signaled, and allows us to limit wakeup to one waiter at a
time during broadcasts even when futex requeue cannot be used.

performance is also greatly improved, roughly double some tests.

basically nothing is changed in the process-shared cond var case,
where this implementation does not work, since processes do not have
access to one another's local storage.
simplify and improve new cond var implementation

previously, wake order could be unpredictable: if a waiter happened to
leave its futex wait on the state early, e.g. due to EAGAIN while
restarting after a signal handler, it could acquire the mutex out of
turn. handling this required ugly O(n) list walking in the unwait
function and accounting to remove waiters that already woke from the
list.

with the new changes, the "barrier" locks in each waiter node are only
unlocked in turn. in addition to simplifying the code, this seems to
improve performance slightly, probably by reducing the number of
accesses threads make to each other's stacks.

as an additional benefit, unrecoverable mutex re-locking errors
(mainly ENOTRECOVERABLE for robust mutexes) no longer need to be
handled with deadlock; they can be reported to the caller, since the
unlocking sequence makes it unnecessary to rely on the mutex to
synchronize access to the waiter list.
further simplify and optimize new cond var

the main idea of the changes made is to have waiters wait directly on
the "barrier" lock that was used to prevent them from making forward
progress too early rather than first waiting on the atomic state value
and then attempting to lock the barrier.

in addition, adjustments to the mutex waiter count are optimized.
previously, each waking waiter decremented the count (unless it was
the first) then immediately incremented it again for the next waiter
(unless it was the last). this was a roundabout was of achieving the
equivalent of incrementing it once for the first waiter and
decrementing it once for the last.