Recovery: cleaner interrupt handling during cancellation

RecoveryTarget initiates the recovery by sending a start recovery request to the source node and then waits for the recovery to complete. During recovery cancellation, we interrupt the thread so it will wake up and clean the recovery. Depending on timing, this can leave an unneeded interrupted thread status causing future IO commands to fail unneeded.

RecoverySource already had a handy utility called CancellableThreads. This extracts it to a top level class, and uses it in RecoveryTarget as well.

Closes #9000
Test: fix racing condition in IndicesRequestTests

a request could be captured after action array was cleared.