Optimized `HashMap` for size. Added `DefaultResizePolicy`

An interface that gives a better control over the load factor and the minimum capacity for HashMap.
The size of `HashMap<K, V>` is now 64 bytes by default on a 64-bit platform (or at least 40 bytes, that is 3 words less, with FNV and without minimum capacity)

Unanswered questions about `ResizePolicy`

* should it control the `INITIAL_CAPACITY`?
* should it fully control the resizing behavior? Even though the capacity always changes by a factor of 2.
* is caching `grow_at` desirable?

special thanks to @eddyb and @pnkfelix
@eddyb drop zeroing is not to be relied upon. it's going away.