[SPARK-3675][SQL] Allow starting a JDBC server on an existing context

Author: Michael Armbrust <michael@databricks.com>

Closes #2515 from marmbrus/jdbcExistingContext and squashes the following commits:

7866fad [Michael Armbrust] Allows starting a JDBC server on an existing context.
stop, start and destroy require the EC2_REGION

i.e
./spark-ec2 --region=us-west-1 stop yourclustername

Author: Jeff Steinmetz <jeffrey.steinmetz@gmail.com>

Closes #2473 from jeffsteinmetz/master and squashes the following commits:

7491f2c [Jeff Steinmetz] fix case in EC2 cluster setup documentation
bd3d777 [Jeff Steinmetz] standardized ec2 documenation to use <lower-case> sample args
2bf4a57 [Jeff Steinmetz] standardized ec2 documenation to use <lower-case> sample args
68d8372 [Jeff Steinmetz] standardized ec2 documenation to use <lower-case> sample args
d2ab6e2 [Jeff Steinmetz] standardized ec2 documenation to use <lower-case> sample args
520e6dc [Jeff Steinmetz] standardized ec2 documenation to use <lower-case> sample args
37fc876 [Jeff Steinmetz] stop, start and destroy require the EC2_REGION