Refactor family acl

This replaces add/remove attributes acl by a single edit attributes acl that also covers editing the requirements

| Q                    | A
| -------------------- | ---
| Bug fix?             | Y
| New feature?         | ?
| BC breaks?           | ?
| CI currently passes? | ?
| Tests pass?          | ?
| Scenarios pass?      | ?
| Checkstyle issues?*  | N
| PMD issues?**        | N
| Changelog updated?  | N
| Fixed tickets        | ?
| Doc PR               | ~