fix sys:get_state/1,2 and sys:replace_state/2,3 when sys suspended

Add two new system callbacks Module:system_get_state/1 and
Module:system_replace_state/2 to allow sys:get_state/1,2 and
sys:replace_state/2,3 to operate correctly even if a process is sys
suspended. Modify gen_server, gen_fsm, and gen_event to support the new
callbacks.

If a callback module does not export these functions, then by default the
Misc value (the same as that passed as the final argument to
sys:handle_system_msg/6, and returned as part of the return value of
sys:get_status/1,2) is treated as the callback module's state.

The previous behaviour of intercepting the system message and passing a
tuple of size 2 as the last argument to sys:handle_system_msg/6 is no
longer supported.

Add tests to verify the correctness of sys:get_state/1,2 and
sys:replace_state/2,3 when processes are sys suspended. Add two tests for
modules that implement special processes, one that exports
system_get_state/1 and system_replace_state/2 and one that doesn't.

Much of the credit for this patch goes to James Fish, who reported the
initial problem and implemented much of the fix.
remove tuple funs from special process documentation

Support for tuple funs was removed in R16B but the documentation for
special processes, sys, and proc_lib in the OTP Design Principles still
showed examples using them, and those examples no longer worked. Fix the
examples to use regular functions instead and fix the documentation to
reflect the changes.