ISPN-4674 When sending partial topology updates, filter segment owners

* Topology updates need to filter segment owners based on the cluster
members sent to the client to cope with partial topology updates.
* Added distributed topology change under load test to replicate issue.
ISPN-4137 Transaction executed multiple times due to forwarded CommitCommand

Make rollback commands synchronous
Move stuff from AbstraceEnlistmentAdapter to TransactionCoordinator.