Ensure AR #second, #third, etc. finders work through associations

This commit fixes two regressions introduced in cafe31a078 where
newly created finder methods #second, #third, #forth, and #fifth
caused a NoMethodError error on reload associations and where we
were pulling the wrong element out of cached associations.

Examples:

  some_book.authors.reload.second

  # Before
  # => NoMethodError: undefined method 'first' for nil:NilClass

  # After
  # => #<Author id: 2, name: "Sally Second", ...>

  some_book.first.authors.first
  some_book.first.authors.second

  # Before
  # => #<Author id: 1, name: "Freddy First", ...>
  # => #<Author id: 1, name: "Freddy First", ...>

  # After
  # => #<Author id: 1, name: "Freddy First", ...>
  # => #<Author id: 2, name: "Sally Second", ...>

Fixes #13783.
Merge pull request #13786 from terracatta/master

Ensure AR #second, #third, etc. finders work through associations