ISPN-4225 Upgrade to JGroups 3.5.0.Beta5
ISPN-4190 Use Message.Flag.DONT_LOOPBACK instead of RequestOptions.setExclusionList

DONT_LOOPBACK is now a transient flag
Use an IHookable listener to set the thread name during tests

It'll work for tests wil timeouts and with parallel invocation.
Configure the listener through an annotation on AbstractInfinispanTest
instead of the XML.
Remove everything except the reporting from UnitTestTestNGListener.