Add watchman support to reduce index refresh cost

The previous patch has the logic to clear bits in 'WAMA' bitmap. This
patch has logic to set bits as told by watchman. The missing bit,
_using_ these bits, are not here yet.

A lot of this code is written by David Turner originally, mostly from
[1]. I'm just copying and polishing it a bit.

[1] http://article.gmane.org/gmane.comp.version-control.git/248006
read-cache: allow index-helper to prepare shm before git reads it

If index-helper puts 'W' before pid in $GIT_DIR/index-helper.pid, then
git will sleep for a while, expecting to be waken up by SIGUSR1 when
index-helper has done shm preparation, or after the timeout.
index-helper: use watchman to avoid refreshing index with lstat()

Watchman is hidden behind index-helper. Before git tries to read the
index from shm, it notifies index-helper with SIGHUP and sleep,
waiting for index-helper to prepare shm. index-helper then contacts
watchman, updates 'WAMA' extension and put it in a separate shm and
wakes git up with SIGHUP.

Git uses this extension to not lstat unchanged entries. Git only trust
'WAMA' extension when it's received from the separate shm, not from
disk. Unmarked entries are "clean". Marked entries are dirty from
watchman point of view. If it finds out some entries are
'watchman-dirty', but are really unchanged (e.g. the file was changed,
then reverted back), then Git will clear the marking in 'WAMA' before
writing it down.

Hiding watchman behind index-helper means you need both daemons. You
can't run watchman alone. Not so good. But on the other hand, 'git'
binary is not linked to watchman/json libraries, which is good for
packaging. Core git package will run fine without watchman-related
packages. If they need watchman, they can install git-index-helper and
dependencies.

Another reason for tying watchman to index-helper is, when used with
untracked cache, we need to keep track of $GIT_WORK_TREE file
listing. That kind of list can be kept in index-helper.
update-index: enable/disable watchman support
perf tracing
update-index: add --update-cache-tree