[SPARK-4281][Build] Package Yarn shuffle service into its own jar

This is another addendum to #3082, which added the Yarn shuffle service to run inside the NM. This PR makes the feature much more usable by packaging enough dependencies into the jar to run the service inside an NM. After these changes, the user can run `./make-distribution.sh` and find a `spark-network-yarn*.jar` in their `lib` directory. The equivalent change is done in SBT by making the `network-yarn` module an assembly project.
Also - if this is going to be compatible across multiple YARN versions, maybe we should actually just put the Spark version instead: `spark-${project.version}-yarn-shuffle`.