[SPARK-3795] Heuristics for dynamically scaling executors

This is part of a bigger effort to provide elastic scaling of executors within a Spark application ([SPARK-3174](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3174)). This PR does not provide any functionality by itself; it is a skeleton that is missing a mechanism to be added later in [SPARK-3822](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3822).

Comments and feedback are most welcome. For those of you reviewing this in detail, I highly recommend doing it through your favorite IDE instead of through the diff here.
Yeah, especially for yarn-client mode because the driver is not co-located with the AM, but it's also needed for yarn-cluster mode because the request might be dropped (e.g. akka's `!` is fire-and-forget).