allow for variable error messages

# Variable Error Messages
*This will part of the v9.0.0 release*

## Notes

- introduces `/config/errors.js` which contain builders for all client-facing error messages actionhero can generate.  This allows you to customize messages like "action not found" to your clients.
  - project generator updated to create this new file
- many files changed to look for their error messages from within `config.errors`
- some error messages (`flatFileNotFoundMessage` and `serverErrorMessage`) have been moved to `/config/errors.js`

## Misc

- `api.utils.hashMerge`/ `api.utils.isPlainObject` have been updated to check provided hashes (or nested hashes) for a special key, `_toExpand`.  If this key is `false`, this object will not be expanded on merge, and copied over literally. 
- the actionProcessor will now also append `connection.actionStatus` if a connection processes an action
  - actionStatus can be an error string, like 'missing_params', null, `true`, or `false`
    - a status of `true` mean the action ran, but there still may be a `connection.error`
    - this status is mostly used for setting HTTP error codes in the web server