make server level_ reflect true start of game position

previousy, the [side]'s in level_ were updated with controller changes,
so that observers who join would be up to date, since controller changes
were not stored in history. we now change this, so that controller changes
are stored in history. they are stored as "[record_change_controller]"
rather than "change_controller" because during a replay we should not
restart the turn and reinit if human changes to droid etc.

this is in preparation to move all controller tweaks to server-side
move controller tweaks to server

(fixup of 736ceaa6c7e81882c9c5b2e932307b1f1ecb3bfd)

following discussion with Soliton, we move all "controller tweaks"
i.e. assignments of networked side to human on the matching client
at start of game, to be server decisions, performed concurrent with
start of game.

in fact the controller tweaks are performed using
game::change_controller, which is modified so that it doesn't try to
make server messages before the game has started.

when the server receives [start_game] from the host, the server will
change_controller for every side, sending corresponding messages to
all players and observers, which will update them as appropriate.
it will also rewrite level_ so that human sides are "network" and
ai sides are "network_ai", making the level_ correct for an observer
who subsequently joins.

we remove the obsoleted client-side code in playcampaign.cpp,
multiplayer.cpp.

We also add to multiplayer_wait.cpp the necessary support code to
interpret [change_controller] messages recieved before game start.
more serverside tweaks debugging output
add some (flawed) debugging output
server "update_sides" should recognize the network_ai type

otherwise tweaks won't work correctly
add debug_sides_info to server/game.cpp
fixup ... don't do tweaks except in the tweaks function!!!
remove a fixme note which is moot
extra debugging info on server
more debugging output
more testing info: server show network connections