Allowing associations in Query::contain to specify a custom finder

This allows changing the finder method an associated Table uses for contains. Also, `/ORM/Association/SelectableAssociationTrait` was passing in "all" at all times to the Query, even if you changed the finder. This addresses #4408.

Thanks!
I'm actually rewriting the test for this now since the change moved from EagerLoader to SelectableAssociationTrait.