Objecter: resend linger ops on any interval change

Watch/notify ops need to be resent after a pg split occurs, as well as
a few other circumstances that the existing objecter checks did not
catch.

Refactor the check the OSD uses for this to add a version taking the
more basic types instead of the whole OSD map, and stash the needed
info when an op is sent.

Fixes: #9806
Backport: giant, firefly, dumpling
Signed-off-by: Josh Durgin <josh.durgin@inktank.com>
Merge remote-tracking branches 'upstream/wip-9545' and 'upstream/wip-9806-giant' into wip-sam-testing