OSHMEM: spml ikrit: add skew to connect/disconnect

Each pe connects/disconnects starting from itself instead of pe=0. This
will distribute network traffic in a more friendly way.
Revert "If someone specifically asks for knem support and we can't do it, then we really should abort."

This reverts commit 6287d43c475fe6de6e3e44cbc3fdbe4f7e08e9a2.
Cleanup static build requirements by adding the wrapper flags back to the component configure.m4's. Minor cleanup of the lsf configure logic.