player: fix desync when seeking and switching external tracks

If you for example use --audio-file, disable the external track, seek,
and enable the external track again, the playback position of the
external file was off, and you would get major A/V desync. This was
actually supposed to work, but broke at some time ago (probably commit
2b87415f). It didn't work, because it attempted to seek the stream if it
was already selected, which was always true due to
reselect_demux_streams() being called before that.

Fix by putting the initial selection and the seek together.
audio: ignore (some) decoding errors on initialization

It probably happens relatively often that the first packet (or even the
first N packets) of a stream will fail to decode, but decoding will
eventually succeed at a later point. Before commit 261506e3, this was
handled by an explicit retry loop (although this was also for other
purposes), but with then was changed to abort on the first error. This
makes it impossible to decode some audio streams.

Change this so that errors are ignored for the first 50 packets, which
should make it equivalent to the old code.