Remove duplicate poller decision making

The decision about the poller mechanism to use (select, poll, ...)
was done twice: once by the build system and once by the code in
poller.hpp. As the build-system can actually detect the mechanisms
available, prefer that result to the hard coded defaults in
poller.hpp.

At the same time, remove the duplicate detection of select() vs.
poll()-variant from proxy.cpp, signaler.cpp and zmq.cpp.

This patch has not been tested on many build platforms: especially
the cmake build needs testing / patching. For the other builds,
hard code the result as these these are all Windows platforms.