Stricter validation in Message#initialize for non-existent fields

My colleagues and I noticed that `Message#initialize` and `Message.encode` silently drop fields that aren't actually part of the proto. This PR makes the validation explicit, and throws a `Protobuf::FieldNotDefinedError` in that situation.

Alternatively, we could introduce backwards compatible `#initialize!` and `.encode!`. However, I think it would be a big win for this gem to enforce the schema of the protobuf to this extent.

Please take a look, and thanks for all your work for this Gem!

cc @tamird
I'd prefer the check to happen inside the `Message#[]=` method. It's a more natural place as we're already checking in the field list if the field is known, rather than checking if the message responds to that setter method.