[WFLY-2994] Improve messaging connector param resources

* check when a transport parameter resource is added if the parameter
  name is allowed by the parent transport configuration. If it is not
  accepted, HornetQ will log a warning, the server will be started
  but the transport itself will not be started.
  This check ensures that a misconfiguration will result in a failure at
  the MODEL stage instead of waiting for a client to use the transport at
  runtime and it is not available.
* update messaging XML configuration files used in the test that were
  not correct in that regard.

JIRA: https://issues.jboss.org/browse/WFLY-2994