Build: Static constructors for built-in providers

Change how internal and external providers are built to fix static
build issues.  External providers are now required to export a
well known API that is invoked by the libfabric framework.  This
replaces the fi_register call that libfabric exported.

Update the build configuration to better handle building in-tree
providers as separate DLLs (for testing purposes).  When building
an in-tree provider as a separate DLL, it now needs to export
the required fi_prov_ini function.

Signed-off-by: pmmccorm <patrick.m.mccormick@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Sean Hefty <sean.hefty@intel.com>

Replaces PR #335
To get rid of this last instance of attribute destructor we could use atexit if we want.