kthread_worker: reimplement flush_kthread_work() to allow freeing the work item being executed

kthread_worker provides minimalistic workqueue-like interface for
users which need a dedicated worker thread (e.g. for realtime
priority).  It has basic queue, flush_work, flush_worker operations
which mostly match the workqueue counterparts; however, due to the way
flush_work() is implemented, it has a noticeable difference of not
allowing work items to be freed while being executed.

While the current users of kthread_worker are okay with the current
behavior, the restriction does impede some valid use cases.  Also,
removing this difference isn't difficult and actually makes the code
easier to understand.

This patch reimplements flush_kthread_work() such that it uses a
flush_work item instead of queue/done sequence numbers.

Signed-off-by: Tejun Heo <tj@kernel.org>