Make PendingWriteQueue.recycle() update its state before triggering an event

Related: #3212

Motivation:

PendingWriteQueue.recycle() updates its data structure after triggering
a channelWritabilityChanged() event. It causes a rare corruption such as
double free when channelWritabilityChanged() method accesses the
PendingWriteQueue.

Modifications:

Update the state of PendingWriteQueue before triggering an event.

Result:

Fix a rare double-free problem