Raise CouldNotSetPasswordError more safely

It seems that adding a restriction to allow_value to raise
CouldNotClearAttribute if nil cannot be set on the attribute in question
broke a lot of people's tests. Really the only reason we added this was
for validate_presence_of -- it rescued CouldNotClearAttribute and
re-raised it as CouldNotSetPasswordError, but only for passwords and
only if has_secure_password was being used. So, I've figured out another
way of performing this check inside of validate_presence_of only to
prevent tests that have nothing to do with from breaking unnecessarily.
Add instructions for Spring users to README
Fix callback matchers to take controller instances

Controller matchers operate on instances of controllers, not controller
classes themselves.