fixing cap_pvpapi interface

This PR tries to fix the following 3 reported issues
- http://code.opencv.org/issues/3946
- http://code.opencv.org/issues/3947
- http://code.opencv.org/issues/3948

Basically it enables use of monochrome AVT cameras AND lets the initialize wait long enough since newer cams have a longer initialization time!
Again, several cameras with different interfaces will cause this to break down. See my code that uses findNewCamera variable.