[SPARK-3627] - [yarn] - fix exit code and final status reporting to RM

See the description and whats handled in the jira comment: https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-3627?focusedCommentId=14150013&page=com.atlassian.jira.plugin.system.issuetabpanels:comment-tabpanel#comment-14150013

This does not handle yarn client mode reporting of the driver to the AM.   I think that should be handled when we make it an unmanaged AM.

Author: Thomas Graves <tgraves@apache.org>

Closes #2577 from tgravescs/SPARK-3627 and squashes the following commits:

9c2efbf [Thomas Graves] review comments
e8cc261 [Thomas Graves] fix accidental typo during fixing comment
24c98e3 [Thomas Graves] rework
85f1901 [Thomas Graves] Merge remote-tracking branch 'upstream/master' into SPARK-3627
fab166d [Thomas Graves] update based on review comments
32f4dfa [Thomas Graves] switch back
f0b6519 [Thomas Graves] change order of cleanup staging dir
d3cc800 [Thomas Graves] SPARK-3627 - yarn - fix exit code and final status reporting to RM