[x86] Make the previous logic significantly less conservative and get
a bunch more improvements.

Non-lane-crossing is fine, the key is that lane merging only makes sense
for single-input shuffles. Not sure why I got so turned around here. The
code all works, I was just using the wrong model for it.

This only updates v4 and v8 lowering. The v16 and v32 lowering requires
restructuring the entire check sequence.