Force users to choose a nav menu in the custom nav menu widget, for a better customizer UX

Before, they had to make a dummy change to get it to render. Now they
are made to choose a nav menu from the dropdown, which feels more
natural.

Merges [28197] to the 3.9 branch.

fixes #27878. props westonruter
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