Support a "no_server" flag in test config.

* Will use a running instance of rippled (possibly in a debugger).
* Modify all tests to respect the server_default value.
* Fail test if new account already exists and has a balance.
* README.md with instructions for advanced test debugging, particularly using no_server.

Tentative reviewers @sublimator, @vinniefalco.
It's a shame that this code is so repetitive, and it could have all been refactored out :-( but I don't suggest you do that in this very specific code review.