Incorporate new preamble from dove
Re-title and edit surprise and well-actually

Re-title and edit the sections on feigning surprise and
well-actually to better clarify the actual principles,
incorporating changes from dove
Wordsmith 2nd paragraph in -ism principle

Suggestions from dove
Wordsmith apology section

Suggestions from dove
Rewrite last section

Update the "What happens if" section to make it clear that public
callouts in electronic media will not end well, and that public
callouts in person will fare better if you focus on the statement
or action, not the person making it.  The goal here is to convey
the difference between, e.g. "I found that statement very sexist"
vs "You are being sexist".  The former will result in far less
defensiveness.
Add a copy of dove's document for reference only

Add a copy of the draft dove submitted, for reference only,
so it's in the same place while this is being worked on