allow high latency spawners

such as VMs, batch and cloud services, etc. which can take minutes to start.

- Spawner.start_timeout sets a limit for true failure,
  at which point spawner should be considered dead.
- Handler.spawn_single_user only waits up to 10 seconds
  before returning. It can now return with a spawner still pending.
- Record User.spawn_pending state, and render 'pending' page
  while server is starting but not started.
test slow and never-finishing spawners
Merge pull request #115 from minrk/latency-spawner

allow high latency spawners