ISPN-4225 Upgrade to JGroups 3.5.0.Beta5
ISPN-4190 Use Message.Flag.DONT_LOOPBACK instead of RequestOptions.setExclusionList

DONT_LOOPBACK is now a transient flag
ISPN-3938 AdvancedAsyncCacheLoader.process() concurrency issues

Simplify ExecutorAllCompletionService to track the tasks itself instead of
using an ExecutorCompletionService.