Use uint32 !=, not tor_memneq, for relay cell integrity checking

tor_memeq has started to show up on profiles, and this is one of the
most frequent callers of that function, appearing as it does on every
cell handled for entry or exit.

59f9097d5c3dc010847c359888d31757d1c97904 introduced tor_memneq here;
it went into Tor 0.2.1.31.  Fixes part of 12169.
Merge remote-tracking branch 'public/bug12169_relay_check'