Use async name resolving to improve net thread responsiveness

NOTE: This is a re-submit of PR 4259, just re-base to latest master for avoiding merge conflct, no real change was made.  The previous discussion could be checked here: https://github.com/bitcoin/bitcoin/pull/4259.

In the LookupIntern(), things changed are:

  1. Call getaddrinfo_a() instead of getaddrinfo() if available, the former is a sync version of the latter;
  2. Try using inet_pton()/inet_addr() to convert the input text to a network addr structure at first, if success the extra name resolving thread inside getaddrinfo_a() could be avoided;
  3.  An interruption point added in the waiting loop for return from getaddrinfo_a(), which completes the improve for thread responsiveness.

A easy way to see the effect is to kick off a 'bitcoind stop' immediately after 'bitcoind -daemon', before the change it would take several, or even tens of, minutes on a bad network situation to wait for the running bitcoind to exit, now it costs only seconds.

Signed-off-by: Huang Le <4tarhl@gmail.com>
gitian-win fails to build on this see #4473