Tweak how preference factors into linkage

The new methodology can be found in the re-worded comment, but the gist of it is
that -C prefer-dynamic doesn't turn off static linkage. The error messages
should also be a little more sane now.

Closes #12133
auto merge of #12398 : alexcrichton/rust/rlibs-and-dylibs-2, r=cmr

The new methodology can be found in the re-worded comment, but the gist of it is
that -C prefer-dynamic doesn't turn off static linkage. The error messages
should also be a little more sane now.

Closes #12133