Reset fields when no selected on save

Bit messy with private methods but I think we could probably abstract this further but wanted to get proper conditional validations in first and make sure all the forms are aligned.

other work address clearing still to do. Adding now...

btw, it's done in `valid?` so that any validations we add will take into account that these fields are blank. 
I thought about the point you made yesterday re `respond_to?` if changed this line to `FormOptions::CURRENT_SITUATION - [current_situation, :state_we_do_not_want]` we can skip the respond_to check and it becomes a little bit clearer.