copy Should-Start header from cron init script

This handles both autofs and auth daemons.
A slight difference with the +autofs in Required-Start
is that IOCs will attempt to start if the mentioned
daemons exist, but fail to start.
show usage message when manage-iocs is run w/ unknown arguments

Was calling die (which exits) before printing the usage.
regenerate /etc/init.d/softioc-* in postinst

Always regenerated with the currently installed
manage-iocs
update urls in debian/control
1.13
postinst must regenerate makefile based boot

run insserv to regenerate /etc/init.d/.depend.*