formatting
first-line work on SSLifying the HTTP client

doesn't work at all, because the encrypted buffer never gets written to the net
actually completes the handshake now
works a little better, but is shoving SSL data into the parser
closer, no longer loops infinitely
connect SSL on port 443, not 80, and don't over-rout.

this nearly works.
a few ssl improvements
separate out needs-handshake from SSL-is-open status

no longer responds to "no request"