[SPARK-3984] [SPARK-3983] Fix incorrect scheduler delay and display task deserialization time in UI

This commit fixes the scheduler delay in the UI (which previously
included things that are not scheduler delay, like time to
deserialize the task and serialize the result), and also
adds information about time to deserialize tasks to the optional
additional metrics.  Time to deserialize the task can be large relative
to task time for short jobs, and understanding when it is high can help
developers realize that they should try to reduce closure size (e.g, by including
less data in the task description).

cc @shivaram @etrain