[#2485] Use RecvByteBufAllocator for all allocations related to read from Channel

Motivation:
At the moment we sometimes use only RecvByteBufAllocator.guess() to guess the next size and the use the ByteBufAllocator.* directly to allocate the buffer. We should always use RecvByteBufAllocator.allocate(...) all the time as this makes the behavior easier to adjust.

Modifications:
Change the read() implementations to make use of RecvByteBufAllocator.

Result:
Behavior is more consistent.
Use ByteBuf.readSlice(...).retain() to minimize memory copies.

Motivation:
At the moment we call ByteBuf.readBytes(...) in these handlers but with optimizations done as part of 25e0d9d we can just use readSlice(...).retain() and eliminate the memory copy.

Modifications:
Replace ByteBuf.readBytes(...) usage with readSlice(...).retain().

Result:
Less memory copies.
More robust native library discovery in Mac OS X

Motivation:

Some JDK versions of Mac OS X generates a JNI dynamic library with '.jnilib' extension rather than with '.dynlib' extension.  However, System.mapLibraryName() always returns 'lib<name>.dynlib'. As a result, NativeLibraryLoader fails to load the native library whose extension is .jnilib.

Modification:

Try to find both '.jnilib' and '.dynlib' resources on OS X.

Result:

Dynamic libraries are loaded correctly in Mac OS X, and thus we can continue the OpenSslEngine work.
Minimize memory footprint of HashedWheelTimer and context-switching

Motivation:
At the moment there are two issues with HashedWheelTimer:
* the memory footprint of it is pretty heavy (250kb fon an empty instance)
* the way how added Timeouts are handled is inefficient in terms of how locks etc are used and so a lot of context-switching / condition can happen.

Modification:
Rewrite HashedWheelTimer to use an optimized bucket implementation to store the submitted Timeouts and a MPSC queue to handover the timeouts.  So volatile writes are reduced to a minimum and also the memory foot-print of the buckets itself is reduced a lot as the bucket uses a double-linked-list. Beside this we use Atomic*FieldUpdater where-ever possible to improve the memory foot-print and performance.

Result:
Lower memory-footprint and better performance
Fix the life cycle mapping problem with m2e

Motivation:

It should be frictionless to import our project into Eclipse

Modifications:

Exclude the plugins with missing life cycle mapping. They are not useful
for use with IDE anyway.

Result:

Fixes #2488
Netty is imported into Eclipse without a problem.
Fix capacity check bug affecting offheap buffers
Make ChannelOutboundBuffer abstract and move impl to DefaultChannelOutboundBuffer
Store the ChannelPromise in an extra circular buffer