Have a dedicated join timeout that is higher than ping.timeout for join

Using ping.timeout, which defaults to 3s, to use as a timeout value on the join request a node makes to the master once its discovered can be too small, specifically when there is a large cluster state involved (and by definition, all the buffers and such on the nio layer will be "cold"). Introduce a dedicated join.timeout setting, that by default is 10x the ping.timeout (so 30s by default).