[SPARK-4404]SparkSubmitDriverBootstrapper should stop after its SparkSubmit sub-proc...

...ess ends

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SPARK-4404

When we have spark.driver.extra* or spark.driver.memory in SPARK_SUBMIT_PROPERTIES_FILE, spark-class will use SparkSubmitDriverBootstrapper to launch driver.
If we get process id of SparkSubmitDriverBootstrapper and wanna kill it during its running, we expect its SparkSubmit sub-process stop also.

Author: WangTao <barneystinson@aliyun.com>
Author: WangTaoTheTonic <barneystinson@aliyun.com>

Closes #3266 from WangTaoTheTonic/killsubmit and squashes the following commits:

e03eba5 [WangTaoTheTonic] add comments
57b5ca1 [WangTao] SparkSubmitDriverBootstrapper should stop after its SparkSubmit sub-process ends
[SPARK-4415] [PySpark] JVM should exit after Python exit

When JVM is started in a Python process, it should exit once the stdin is closed.

test: add spark.driver.memory in conf/spark-defaults.conf

```
daviesdm:~/work/spark$ cat conf/spark-defaults.conf
spark.driver.memory       8g
daviesdm:~/work/spark$ bin/pyspark
>>> quit
daviesdm:~/work/spark$ jps
4931 Jps
286
daviesdm:~/work/spark$ python wc.py
943738
0.719928026199
daviesdm:~/work/spark$ jps
286
4990 Jps
```

Author: Davies Liu <davies@databricks.com>

Closes #3274 from davies/exit and squashes the following commits:

df0e524 [Davies Liu] address comments
ce8599c [Davies Liu] address comments
050651f [Davies Liu] JVM should exit after Python exit