Indexing: force refresh when versionMap is using too much RAM

If the user sets a high refresh interval, the versionMap can use
unbounded RAM.  I fixed LiveVersionMap to track its RAM used, and
trigger refresh if it's > 25% of IW's RAM buffer.  (We could add
another setting for this but we have so many settings already?).

I also fixed deletes to prune every index.gc_deletes/4 msec, and I
only save a delete tombstone if index.gc_deletes > 0.

I think we could expose the RAM used by versionMap somewhere
(Marvel?  _cat?), but we can do that separately ... I put a TODO.

Closes #6378
Thinking about this more, we didn't use to do it and left the delete/version pruning to flushes. Maybe we want to put this under the same gc delete sanity check that we have in the delete operation and only call this if 25% of the gc delete interval has passed?