[SPARK-3426] Fix sort-based shuffle error when spark.shuffle.compress and spark.shuffle.spill.compress settings are different

This PR fixes SPARK-3426, an issue where sort-based shuffle crashes if the
`spark.shuffle.spill.compress` and `spark.shuffle.compress` settings have
different values.

The problem is that sort-based shuffle's read and write paths use different
settings for determining whether to apply compression.  ExternalSorter writes
runs to files using `TempBlockId` ids, which causes
`spark.shuffle.spill.compress` to be used for enabling compression, but these
spilled files end up being shuffled over the network and read as shuffle files
using `ShuffleBlockId` by BlockStoreShuffleFetcher, which causes
`spark.shuffle.compress` to be used for enabling decompression.  As a result,
this leads to errors when these settings disagree. 


Based on the discussions in #2247 and #2178, it sounds like we don't want to
remove the `spark.shuffle.spill.compress` setting.  Therefore, I've tried to
come up with a fix where `spark.shuffle.spill.compress` is used to compress
data that's read and written locally and `spark.shuffle.compress` is used to
compress any data that will be fetched / read as shuffle blocks.

To do this, I split `TempBlockId` into two new id types, `TempLocalBlockId` and
`TempShuffleBlockId`, which map to `spark.shuffle.spill.compress` and
`spark.shuffle.compress`, respectively.  ExternalAppendOnlyMap also used temp
blocks for spilling data.  It looks like ExternalSorter was designed to be
a generic sorter but its configuration already happens to be tied to sort-based
shuffle, so I think it's fine if we use `spark.shuffle.compress` to compress
its spills; we can move the compression configuration to the constructor in
a later commit if we find that ExternalSorter is being used in other contexts
where we want different configuration options to control compression.  To
summarize:

**Before:**


|       | ExternalAppendOnlyMap        | ExternalSorter               |
|-------|------------------------------|------------------------------|
| Read  | spark.shuffle.spill.compress | spark.shuffle.compress       |
| Write | spark.shuffle.spill.compress | spark.shuffle.spill.compress |

**After:**

|       | ExternalAppendOnlyMap        | ExternalSorter         |
|-------|------------------------------|------------------------|
| Read  | spark.shuffle.spill.compress | spark.shuffle.compress |
| Write | spark.shuffle.spill.compress | spark.shuffle.compress |

Thanks to @andrewor14 for debugging this with me!