stabilize more of collections

This stabilizes most of libcollections, carefully avoiding sections of API which are being managed in other PRs. APIs which are not stable are marked explicitly unstable with a reason. Also deprecates the following:

* DList
  * rotate_forward
  * rotate_backward
  * prepend
  * insert_when
  * insert_ordered
  * merge

* VecMap
  * update
  * update_with_key

as such this is a

[breaking-change]
Also I've seen some argue that it doesn't necessarily help with clarity in this case, because it's not "clear" that the returned type borrows. You have to know that it's eliding a lifetime.