SslHander wrap conditional direct buffer allocation

Motivation:
The SslHandler currently forces the use of a direct buffer for the input to the SSLEngine.wrap(..) operation. This allocation may not always be desired and should be conditionally done.

Modifications:
- Use the pre-existing wantsDirectBuffer variable as the condition to do the conversion.

Result:
- An allocation of a direct byte buffer and a copy of data is now not required for every SslHandler wrap operation.
ALPN should allow handshake failure if no compatible protocols found

Motivation:
If there are no common protocols in the ALPN protocol exchange we still compete the handshake successfully.  This handshake should fail according to http://tools.ietf.org/html/rfc7301#section-3.2 with a status of no_application_protocol.  The specification also allows for the server to "play dumb" and not advertise that it supports ALPN in this case (see MAY clauses in http://tools.ietf.org/html/rfc7301#section-3.1)

Modifications:
-Upstream project used for ALPN (alpn-boot) does not support this.  So a PR https://github.com/jetty-project/jetty-alpn/pull/3 was submitted.
-The netty code using alpn-boot should support the new interface (return null on existing method).
-Version number of alpn-boot must be updated in pom.xml files

Result:
-Netty fails the SSL handshake if ALPN is used and there are no common protocols.