workqueue: reimplement cancel_delayed_work() using try_to_grab_pending()

cancel_delayed_work() can't be called from IRQ handlers due to its use
of del_timer_sync() and can't cancel work items which are already
transferred from timer to worklist.

Also, unlike other flush and cancel functions, a canceled delayed_work
would still point to the last associated cpu_workqueue.  If the
workqueue is destroyed afterwards and the work item is re-used on a
different workqueue, the queueing code can oops trying to dereference
already freed cpu_workqueue.

This patch reimplements cancel_delayed_work() using
try_to_grab_pending() and set_work_cpu_and_clear_pending().  This
allows the function to be called from IRQ handlers and makes its
behavior consistent with other flush / cancel functions.

Signed-off-by: Tejun Heo <tj@kernel.org>
Cc: Linus Torvalds <torvalds@linux-foundation.org>
Cc: Ingo Molnar <mingo@redhat.com>
Cc: Andrew Morton <akpm@linux-foundation.org>